So, who are you?
What came to mind when you read that title? Maybe your name or your career title? Or maybe you had absolutely no idea how to answer it? One thing’s for sure, it would be pretty rare for someone to describe the type of person they are if asked that question. After all, how many of us actually take the time to consider the person that we are and our being, never mind describe it to someone?
Why does my ‘being’ matter?
In short, having an awareness of the person you are is a catalyst for change. Recognising your positive qualities, characteristics and achievements can have an extremely positive impact on your self-esteem and confidence. However, we’re all human and there are times when we’re not happy with how we’re feeling or the things we’re doing.
“If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree” ~ Jim Rohn
That’s the awesome news! We can make new choices.
How do I change things?
Firstly, remember that the person you want to be is within you. Sometime you just need to re-connect with that person or overcome the roadblocks that are getting in the way.
US leadership coach, Marshall Goldsmith, wrote a great article on The Secret to Becoming the Person You Want to Be where he describes a process that can be followed to achieve meaningful change. Marshall recommends taking a more measured approach. However, I’ve also witnessed amazingly quick changes.
In my previous career I was in a leadership role and delivered briefings to my team every morning. Rather than focus on the ‘doing’ of clearing workload and achieving targets I often encouraged them to consider their being. Particularly effective on a Monday morning! By thinking about how they wanted to feel and their attitudes Mondays went from ‘I hate Mondays!’ to ‘I want more energy, how can I do that?’ to ‘I love Mondays, they set me up for the week so well, including my attitude’. Some simple re-framing but boy did it change how people were ‘being’ at work.
It all starts with choice
What kind of person do you want to be?
What positive characteristics do you want to have?
How do you want to feel?
How would you describe the attitude you want to have?
What are your core values? Are you living by them every day? Has ego been getting in the way?
Use those answers to give you focus and direction. Turn them into actionable steps you can take. For example, if you’re in need of energy perhaps listen to a motivational Ted Talk, upbeat music or be around people with high energy. If you want to be a more generous person, consider how you could do that. Perhaps donate to your favourite charity, give up time to support a local youth group. Whatever is important to you.
Start taking those small steps now. Notice whether you are living in alignment with the positive characteristics you want to have. Are you truly living by your values? Are you thinking and feeling the way you want to?
We would always recommend using a journal to capture insights and learning. Within our redesigned Core Journal there is a Life Maps section that gives you the opportunity to explore various aspects of your life. ‘Being’ is one of those areas as we truly believe it can change your life.
Enjoy the adventure!